2025 was a special year for me. I was in this transition between healing from heartbreak and building a new life. After coming back from a holiday in the US, I decided in January 2025 that the only way to heal my pain was to change my life radically. 

So, I quit my job, changed my wardrobe, renovated my apartment and even moved to another country for a few months to build a business. I thought this new life would help me and solve all my problems – but it didn’t. 

I was the same person, with the same problems just in a different place with different people. I was still sad, angry and disappointed.

Then I remembered a quote I heard – if you want to change your live, you must start by changing yourself. 

So, I did that. I started looking at the only constant in my life; Myself. 

And oh boy, this changed my life completely…. 

I started to look inward instead of outward. I paid more attention to my feelings, to my body, to my mind and my behavior. Thanks to my journal and video diaries, I was able to notice behaviors I would never realize. For example, that every time I felt nervous, anxious or when I needed to treat myself for an accomplishment, I wanted to eat something unhealthy. Or that I was constantly trying to prove myself in front of people I admired, instead of paying attention to what they were saying.

Slowly I recognized my patterns, my habits and started to connect with my body so much that things started to shift in the most natural way. 

I started to go to the gym and eat healthy because my body wanted to feel good. My relationships improved because I was having better conversations with people. People were friendly to me because I was at peace with myself.

When I first moved into my apartment, I remember feeling that my neighbour didn’t like me. For some reason, I had this quiet assumption in my mind and it shaped the way I saw every interaction. But over time, I decided to let go of that thought. I started simply smiling when I saw her, greeting her in the morning. And little by little, something shifted. Her expression softened. Today, she greets me with a big smile and even stops to ask how I’m doing.

My whole world has changed completely without me doing anything other than looking at myself. It is easy to change the external world. It is easy to change locations, material things and replace friends and family. But it is extremely hard to change ourselves – to look inward and challenge ourselves. 

For a long time, I believed that life was mostly shaped by circumstances. I believed that things happened around me, and I simply had to find my way through them. And in many moments, it really does feel that way.

But somewhere along the journey, my perspective began to shift. I started to notice that I wasn’t just reacting to life—I was, in subtle ways, shaping it. Through my thoughts, my energy, the way I chose to see things.

It made me realise that we may hold more power than we think. Not in controlling everything, but in influencing the direction of our lives.

Looking back, I realise that the biggest changes in my life didn’t start outside of me – they started in the way I chose to see, to think, and to move forward.

Having lived this myself, I’ve come to believe that our personality truly shapes our personal reality.